“Don’t let anything stand in the way of you claiming and manifesting the life that you choose rather than the life you have by default.”
Soulful Tip: Let today be about giving yourself permission:
It’s all too common, hearing about poor pitiful so and so. We all have friends or know people that complain regularly and really feel the world is their enemy. Maybe we are even guilty of it ourselves once and a while? The one’s complaining do not seem to realize that their lives are a result of their own doing and thinking. Yes, so many people are born from very bad circumstances and have to struggle a little more than others to gain the life they wish to live. However, it has been done! We cannot control what circumstances we arrive in but we can control what circumstances we create! For some people, they would rather complain and gain pity from others instead of doing something to make a difference for themselves. I have been there and I’m sure many of you have too. We learn that complaining does not make the situation change and until we take action, it will not change at all!
For a long time, I felt that the circumstance I was born into was my destiny and that I had no hope of becoming anything different than what I was at day 1. I didn’t realize that by thinking that way, is what was keeping me that way. Not to say my circumstance were awful but it was not the life I wanted for myself. I have learned that the power of the mind is the ultimate means than any other power.
For example, I used to be an avid runner, I still enjoy running but my knees would hate me for it today. I loved running and spent hours running. I would rather run than do anything else. I ran on a team and felt the greatest sense of purpose. However, in my mind, I didn’t feel I was a good enough runner, I made myself believe this. I worried more about being popular and liked than I did about achieving my personal best and about giving my personal best for the benefit of the entire team. Instead, I convinced myself my running was mediocre even though I knew that my running ability was very good. I was able to achieve long distances in shorter time spans than the others on the team. However, I backed off when the popular girl was in the lead as I felt she had sourness toward me if I would finish before her. Therefore, I would always back off so she could be the first to the finish. In retrospect, this was obviously not the best decision for me. I sacrificed for the opportunity to be liked? In the long run, she never liked me anyway. She always had bitterness and I did not realize it at the time that it was because of her, not because of me. I did not give myself permission to really be me. Instead, I stunted my own growth and opportunities out of fear. If I had given myself permission to run to my potential, who knows what that would have led to? Instead, I gave up on running because I convinced myself I wasn’t good enough and didn’t deserve to be good enough. I was not afraid of failure but of success!
When we think of all the little things in life that hold us back, it really boils down to us not giving ourselves permission. When we remove our mindset of can’t to CAN! We then begin a whole new journey for ourselves…
I can give myself permission to be my best without fear of anyone not liking me. I can give myself permission to apply for that job that seems out of my reach. I can give myself permission to look the way I do because I am beautiful as is! I can give myself permission to try bungee jumping even though I’m afraid of heights. I can give myself permission to talk to that person even though they may not feel the way I do. I can give myself permission to try sushi even though I believe it may not be good. There are many things we can do to give ourselves permission. It just takes a little introspection. We do not have to let all the little things add up to the bigger things and not being able to really live the life we want. We have the ability inside to be who we want to be. Most of us just really want the permission to be ourselves and we can if we say okay!
What do you need to give yourself permission to do?